What Do You Say After You Say Hello: Gain control of your conversations and relationships

A must read

It is a good book which makes you understand why you behave the way you do.

Great book.a must read to understand psychology of children and how bad patenting affects them either to be a winner or loser all depends on parenting skills and the sensitivity of a parent towards a child.it gives a whole new meaning to everything

Fantastic read. Logics are superb and that's what we need to understand. Choice of food and linking it with astrology is something new and very interesting. The book does force you to make change in our lifestyles and understand our body type to make required adjustments. Seems to be product of intense research and hard work.

Trust me...Once you completely understand the written topic in this book...you will start seeing things differently. ..your perception of life would thoroughly change after reading this book.. ENJOYED A LOT..GOT DELIVERED WITHIN 3 DAYS...KUDOS TO AMAZON TEAM

Just received my copy of the book! The overall build of the book is really nice, even for being a paperback cover and at the price... It's a grab!

Lovely..

Fantastic concepts of PAC and pac and time structuring. My belief of how scripts get written is very different than author's.

A lire dans le texte, car les traductions sont moins bonnes. Vous êtes à la source de l'analyse transactionnelle (imaginée et théorisée par Eric Berne, un peu après Freud), approche de la communication mais aussi de la construction du parcours de vie de chacun (à travers la notion de scénario).

Reading the first book "Games People Play" also by the same author, was a real game changer for me. I was told about Transactional Analysis, the process of understanding communication, by a management consultant used by my business, as a tool to understand where communication breaks down between management and employees/team members... But right away I noticed that this process actually turned a light onto my understanding of problems we experience with communicating with customers, which really did peak my interest and spurned me onto buying this book! So I delved deeper, and started to read "Games People Play", and with almost every page my understanding of human conversation improved by an insane amount. It has allowed me to instantly spot "No win" conversations (or games) very quickly during a conversation, rather than finding myself after these conversations wondering where I had gone wrong, or how the other person could not understand the logic I was trying to explain. It also helps with confrontations, either where the other person is being aggressive, but also identifying how my communication may be misinterpreted. This book continues with this work and further explains many situations and conversations, which explain quickly where the two people are positioned, what is really driving what they are saying, how those conversations can go wrong, but also how they could be improved and go well. The books also explain so many other parts of human nature, such as why sometimes when a someone will seem to be overly familiar we feel threatened, or even that the other person may have an alternative motive, but also why someone not showing us the usual amount of attention, may spark feelings of being shunned, rather than seeing the other causes and motives. We really are a mad bag of emotions and chemicals as a species, but this book and the previous one really do unlock secrets of communication, and put us back in the driving seat of being in control of how we express ourselves and deal with other peoples emotions and motives. Amazing book... Having an extensive collection of books on the subject of business, marketing and psychology, I would say that "The Games People Play", "What we say after we say hello" and "The Chimp Paradox" are three books I would recommend that anyone with a casual or serious interest in what drives people, should have on their bookshelf.

bought for a friend

what a great book!!! it's full of interesting, inventive ideas and thoughts about what influences people throughout their lives. it took me quite a while to get through, because reading the book really made me contemplate - in a good way. although it was written back in the 70's and the title might be a little bit misleading, in my opinion it's totally worth reading this book, if you are interested in people or your own behavior patterns. Eric Berne really knows how to write in a straightforward and down-to-earth way.

If you are human, if you deal with people, if you say Hello to anybody at all, you must read this book. I keep it in my car and read a page or two whenever I wait for the wife shopping. No, I am not saying you should do the same. You are welcome to consider doing that. It certainly empowers me to laugh at my own stupidity. Read it, you like it.