Courage To Be Disliked, The: How to free yourself, change your life and achieve real happiness

"The Courage to Be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga is a thought-provoking and transformative book that challenges conventional wisdom about happiness, interpersonal relationships, and personal growth. Drawing on the principles of Alfred Adler, a renowned psychologist, this book presents a refreshing and liberating perspective on life. The authors introduce the Socratic dialogue format, where a young man engages in conversations with a philosopher, challenging his beliefs and assumptions. Through this dialogue, readers are invited to explore their own deeply ingrained beliefs and societal expectations that hinder personal growth and hinder their ability to live a fulfilling life. One of the most significant takeaways from this book is the concept of "separation of tasks." It teaches that individuals have the power to choose their own thoughts, attitudes, and actions independently of the past or the expectations of others. This notion empowers readers to take responsibility for their own happiness and break free from the victim mentality. It encourages personal agency and self-acceptance, emphasizing that it is possible to live authentically, regardless of external circumstances. Another valuable aspect of "The Courage to Be Disliked" is its exploration of interpersonal relationships. The book challenges the common belief that our past experiences and the behavior of others determine our present relationships. Instead, it argues that we have the ability to form new connections and choose how we interact with others, enabling us to foster healthier and more fulfilling relationships. This emphasis on individual responsibility and mutual respect provides a fresh perspective on the dynamics of human interaction. Furthermore, the book delves into the nature of happiness. It suggests that happiness is not dependent on external achievements or validation from others but stems from an internal sense of purpose and contentment. By embracing one's true self and pursuing one's own goals and desires, readers are encouraged to find a profound sense of fulfillment and joy. One of the strengths of this book is its accessibility. The Socratic dialogue format makes complex psychological concepts easily understandable and relatable. The conversations between the young man and the philosopher are engaging, thought-provoking, and provide practical examples that readers can apply to their own lives. However, it is important to note that "The Courage to Be Disliked" is not a quick fix or a step-by-step guide to happiness. It challenges deeply ingrained beliefs and requires introspection and personal reflection. Readers may need to revisit certain passages or concepts to fully grasp their meaning and integrate them into their lives. In comparison to other self-help and personal development books, "The Courage to Be Disliked" stands out due to its unique approach and philosophical foundation. It encourages readers to question societal norms, overcome their fears of social disapproval, and embrace their own uniqueness. While the book may not resonate with everyone, those willing to explore unconventional ideas will find it a transformative and empowering read. In conclusion, "The Courage to Be Disliked" is a remarkable book that challenges readers to rethink their beliefs about happiness, relationships, and personal growth. Its profound insights, presented through engaging dialogues, offer a liberating perspective on life. If you are open to exploring new ideas and are ready to take responsibility for your own happiness, this book can be a catalyst for personal transformation.

One of the best books I have read , must read

Reading The Courage to Be Disliked felt like having a wise companion walking beside me rather than just reading a book. What makes it special is how its lessons stay with you; whenever I make a mistake, doubt myself, or react emotionally, something from this book suddenly pops into my mind. Its biggest strength is how deeply it challenges your thinking about fear, approval, responsibility, and living your own life. At the same time, like any meaningful book, it has a few areas that may not connect with every reader—it can feel repetitive, slow, and at times a little overwhelming, especially for those who enjoy fiction or faster-paced books. Still, despite those flaws, it’s a powerful and genuinely thought-provoking read that stays with you long after finishing it. My rating would be a solid four.

Truly amazing. The conversation and dialogue between the youth and the philosopher gives you glimpse to different perspective and reason for the action occured. If someone is going through a phase "why is this happening to me?". You should definitely read it. Gave it to my student as well and she does she everyday event in a different light.

Everyone must read, book quality is also good and it's a original

Interesting read. The book gets you started on a philosophical journey. I would recommend to read it more than once to get a grasp

To understand better, read it: Alfred Adler was an Austrian physician and psychiatrist who formed the school of thought known as individual psychology. He was initially a colleague of Sigmund Freud. Adler eventually split from Freud's circle. Where, Adler takes teleological stance (the study of the purpose of a given phenomenon, rather than its cause), Freud takes aetiological stance (the study of causation). About the book: The courage to be disliked is a Non-fiction book depicted in a dialogue format between the youth & the philosopher. The book is about Adler’s philosophical and psychological ideas & teachings such as “here and now”, “lifestyle”, “unconditional positive regard”, “social interest”, “inferiority complex”, “superiority complex” and others. The youth engages in an argument with the philosopher, denying Adler’s way of thinking. The argument goes on as the book interpreted them in five parts, which involve statements like “All problems are interpersonal relationship problems” and “deny trauma” etc. Also, to make it easy, every chapter has a summary in the end mentioning what has been discussed between them in that particular chapter for our better understanding in an introductory dialect. My opinion: It was clearly mentioned that the conversation here doesn’t depict how counseling happens in any way. However, as a psychology student you can still make out some counseling skills that have been used in the middle of their conversation. And, if you are aware of Adler’s therapy or the concepts a little, then you will definitely going to connect more. I would highly recommend this book to psychology students as to equip you with the better understanding of a particular school of thought before start practicing a certain therapy. This isn’t the only book about the Adler’s concept and looking forward to read more about the teleology concept in comparison with Freud’s way of thinking. Even if you aren’t from psychology field, reading a thought provoking debate is for you to understand and live a healthy life. I am looking forward to read more about Adler’s concepts.

Amazing book, certainly changed my thinking a bit. I worry constantly about my future and regret some things in my past. Especially the wrong calls that took me on a different road. This book highlights the importance of being in the present, treating all your life connections as comrades. Life is simple after all. I am going to learn more about Adlerian psychology as the next step.

Doesn't make sense, and there's no real logic to it, but it gives you a certain constructive perspective on how to approach life. If you choose one self-help book, this is the one.

This book is super interesting and eye-opening, but the quality of the cover and paper is definitely not what I expected. The cover is super thin, and there are some gaps/holes in the glue layer between the cover and pages. Reading this book once is okay, but after the 2nd or 3rd time, I assume it will fall apart.

Ho ricevuto il libro ben impacchettato,corrispondente alla sua descrizione ed entro i tempi previsti. Esso soddisfa le mie aspettative.

I really enjoyed this book. It is well worth the read if you are curious. It gives you lots to chew on and great points of view. It was great to learn a thing or two from it. Great writing and overall I would highly recommend it.

Its a nice book i brought after a real video but it's nice to be read at least once