The 5 Love Languages®: The Secret to Love that Lasts

Introduction: In “The 5 Love Languages”, Gary Chapman displays his masterful understanding of the single factor necessary to create and maintain a healthy relationship – Love. Through his experience as a counselor, stories from the road and journey as a student, Dr. Chapman has been able to materialize the immaterial force which permeates all marriages and relationships, providing the advice which almost no one can articulate. Dr. Chapman has found the languages of love itself, “Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.” What You will Gain: After reading this book, you will find yourself rapidly improving your relationship with your spouse, children, and family. I the heard enthusiastic, supporting words, “Our relationship has been different over the past week!” after implementing the wisdom from “The 5 Love Languages.” You will even find yourself watching drama-filled talk shows like “Dr. Phil,” being able to pinpoint each spouse’s love language and how they are not fulfilling it based on their complaints. It is very enjoyable to wield this skill, but also extremely practical. Instead of criticizing your spouse, you can create the environment to facilitate change, and the best part is, both partners do not have to be on the same page! That’s right,” The 5 Love Languages” work without needing both partners to read, so if you didn’t marry a reader, you’re in luck! Conclusion: This was my first dedicated relationship book, and I’m glad it was. “The 5 Love Languages” was not only a quick read, but easy to digest and entertaining. I purchased it for the incredibly low price of $6.86 in new condition (can’t get much better than that, even at a used bookstore). Based on all the things discussed above, I can easily endorse this book and frankly recommend it to everyone! Even if you’re not married, this book covers relationship dynamics you can apply anywhere.

Preemptive strike to save your marriage heartache and needless suffering. If your not married and simply dating this book is still Highly recommended to be read. I'm a single male at the time of this review and I learned so much about my self and I how I can begin to understand my future significant other or my potential wife. Read this book.

The 5 Love Languages is a timeless relationship book that helps people understand how they naturally give and receive love. The hardcover edition feels elegant, durable, and perfect for keeping on a coffee table or gifting to a spouse, friend, or newlywed couple. The concepts are simple but powerful, making it an easy read with practical advice you can apply immediately in everyday relationships. A meaningful book that many people revisit over the years.

I thought this was a pretty good (and quick and easy) read. I found it really eye-opening in terms of all relationships (not just romantic). It made me think a lot about my friendships and even my relationships with my children and how I show all these people in my life that they are cared and loved for. It also made me think about how other people might be showing that they care for me, but maybe it doesn't show the way I'd expect it to. I can't say that it'll be life-changing for everyone, but I think it's a good read for anyone as a means of helping them understand why sometimes, they might do something for someone, and that other person just doesn't see the value in it and vice versa. Sometimes it might be tricky to find out another person's love-language without quizzing them or digging really deep. And if you're hoping to strengthen any kind of relationship, I think it's good if both parties are on board with learning to reciprocate and understand the basis of these ideas. I don't necessarily think you have to read the entire book to get the gist of it, either. The 5 Love Languages (you can find this on the official website, too) are: - Words of affirmation (compliments, praise, etc.) - Acts of service (doing dishes/laundry/cooking/etc. for a spouse) - Receiving gifts (Pretty self explanatory. This could be as simple as picking up your friend's favorite candy bar and randomly giving to him/her. Don't think this means you have to be dropping diamonds in your wife's lap every week.) - Quality time (Also explanatory. Could be as simple as watching TV together quietly with your loved one.) - Physical touch (Calm down, this could be as simple as holding hands or quick contact in passing.) We often feel the most love when our particular love language is expressed to us and we also have tendency to use that love language on everyone else. But that's not what speaks the most to everyone. Learning other people's language can help you express your love for someone else in a much more effective and powerful way than just using what works best for you. As I said, this applies to all relationships! Learning this concept made me really think about my children and I knew right away which language spoke the most volumes to my four year-old and I try to consider this as much as possible in my daily interactions with her. Discussing with my husband which languages spoke the most to us gave us a better understanding of what has the most impact on each of our perspectives on our relationship. Anyway, great concept overall and I found it to be very insightful as far as opening up my eyes to how others have expressed their feelings for me and how I can effectively reciprocate my feelings for them.

Having read dozens of relationship and communication books, this one really clicked a lot of those different pieces and concepts into place. That said, the first half of the book is brilliantly good and should be must-read for every couple. The second half goes a little off the rails. After a great first half talking about how relationships work, and the communication types (it will be helpful to do the online survey before reading through this), the author then gets very abruptly preachy, devolving into a chapter-long explanation of his love of Jesus and how that led him to help a client stay in an abusive relationship (he tells it like it's a good thing). About the last third of the book is Q&A which highlights some of the achilles' heel in The Five Love Languages. One of the first that my girlfriend and I found via the test (ranks your languages) is his assertion that they don't change over time, which we found not to be the case. Because we're early in our relationship and the questions are pretty open-ended, things like "Would you rather spend time with your partner or receive a gift from them" were heavily colored by our previous experiences of how much fun hanging out actually was or how thoughtful our partners were at gift-giving. While in aggregate this may not completely change over time, we found over a few months that our answers (and therefore scoring) did evolve. So a few things like that made the book feel perhaps less authoritative as it claimed. That said, the first half and the actual conversation about the Love Languages has been foundational to our communication and has worked really, really well. I highly recommend reading at least the first half. The second... with a grain of salt.

I love this book. Something that everyone should have in their collection. Had previously read this book many many years ago and felt a need to want to reread it so I purchased one. Will definitely have this book for many years to come. Is definitely a gotta read for everyone, regardless of age or gender.

If you plan on being in a relationship, or is already in one I really do recommend this book. It's clear enough gets to the point and is not a drag. Just like any other books like these though, learn how to take the information and apply it.

I was once asked to read this book by the only person in the world I love.....I refused. At the time I figured it to be some shrinks opinion on how we should all be in our relationships....what the hell does he know I thought.....what if he is wrong and my future wife bases our whole future on just what he says.....I imagined this book to be some guy with opinions on how to fix problems that he knows nothing about because he doesn't know "us". It's not a good feeling as a man to agree to read a book on relationships because you feel like you're putting everything into the authors hands.....and what if he "doesn't understand" or what if the advice doesn't apply to us.....what if it makes things worse between us because he advises things we don't believe in.....no....I'm not reading that I told her. I thought no matter what we would always figure each other out and we would be ok......I didn't see being asked to read this book , was a cry out from the woman I love hitting a boiling point and her attempt to communicate to me in a different way......the same things she's been trying to for a long time..... Being close minded that day costed me so much regret and misery....I used to wake up to the most beautiful smile in the world and now I don't....I recently ended up reading this book and I couldn't put it down....sounds crazy but it's true. Instead of being some guys opinions or......typical shrink talk that in no way could apply to each specific relationship.......I found it to be a book that opens up the mind to the understanding of love.....and how it is not this one universal "language" we all feel we should be the same with.....I once told her...."nobody taught me how to love, I'm growing....learning".....I pleased with her to understand I love her.......we simply didn't have an understanding of how and why we didnt approach love the exact same way as each other.....only makes sense that it should be the same right? You bicker and argue and it drives you crazy......why doesn't she understand you think.......the book is not an excuse to use or justify a true bad relationship let me add.....but it truly answers so many questions.....it is really a language of love. Once understood, this book leaves you feeling like a fool and only wanting to apply so much of what you've now learned to your future together. It takes away the work of trying to understand the things that at the time make no sense.....and allows you to focus on what's important....loving instead of wasting precious time. Read it carefully and I recommend reading it together.....I didn't get that chance but I can guarantee reading this book with who you love will allow you both to stop frequently throughout the pages and talk,learn,smile, probably cry.....but then go on to a much happier fulfilling life together once the book is closed. It can save so much if you only let it. *Update 12-1-17 I drive a bus so I have nothing but time to think as I look out the window and look up at the sky looking around me. You would probably think of screaming kids and noise but for me it is driving in my own little world and using time to think about life I am a trainer so I spend my time trying to help people learn how to maintain their body and prevent problems. And the funny thing is that it is are very choices of what we do to our own bodies that I am teaching to have to change. All of our problems nutritionally and physically and even mentally come down too poor choice and repetitive habits that we know we need to change but never do until it's too late. Every single person reading this can relate to that My point about what I do is that I spend a lot of time trying to fix my body because professionals out there either won't take the time to do it or I don't have the money to spend on who is needed. I have spent countless months doing stretches and exercises and what I have found is a lot of times I'm doing the exact same stretches and exercises that don't seem to be working. Soooo......why not do different ones then right...... what a lot of reasons it may feel good, you may not know any other stretches or exercises, you may simply believe that if I just do it one more time again tomorrow....THAT it will finally help..... you just believe in that stretch so much that in your mind you just say I'll keep trying. You are maybe even making things worse by this but you're honest to God intentions are to completely cure one of the biggest problems in your life, pain...... I think you see where I'm getting at. Getting a little long for whoever is reading but there is a lot of meaning here that can help who knows thousands of people as long as this review remains online...... I will just end it like this..... last night I took a stretch that I have been doing for over 2 years and I changed it in a slightly different way....... a lot of the pain I normally get daily is gone....... just to put a spotlight on that sentence .....I'm saying that what I had been doing for so long..... trying to cure one of the biggest problems in my life that hadnt been working............that I continued doing........ believing in and depending on.... to be my much needed answer.......It wasn't until I allowed the idea of the same stretch applied in a different way, that I ALLOWED life to be better for me. I did not say this stretch doesn't matter anymore and say forget it to never exist again.....no, I used it to COMMUNICATE with my body in the same exact physical form....just different language from mind to body....because I always believed in it. Belief can be amazing and help you....it also can be your own worst enemy when refuse to change your ways.....lots of time I lost believing my way instead of another.....all while would have given anything to accomplish my goal......once again I stood in my own way......but I didn't give up.....otherwise pain would still be here and I wouldn't have came on here to add all these thoughts. You have to go into the book with an open mind because if you do it with the mindset of wanting it to say what it is that you want to hear.....then you can never let the life-changing words happen.......you're learning a language as you read...not what's right and wrong but what was being lost in life. Keep in mind this is a book about the language of love so if you think about when you go to school to learn a different language...you are taking the difficult step of taking time there in order to understand.....be able to take what you understand and apply it.....and be able to communicate in a NEEDED way once you learn....AND THEN USE......communicate and UNDERSTAND eachother. Just think how you feel when you meet somebody and you want to communicate but you can't and you get frustrated. you are trying to figure out what you want the other person to know and they're trying to tell or show you..... it becomes stressful and sometimes you end up walking away from each other never knowing the real meaning that was right there between the two of you. When you are able to speak the same language this simply does not happen..... The same two people if we're able to learn the same language, could come back in front of one another again and.....just imagine......imagine the possibilities with that communication.......so much never lost again. The exact same message and the exact same feelings that were always there, except now instead of the stress of not understanding, there is the excitement for anything to be possible just by coming together and understanding..... The power of language is amazing........think of when you meet somebody and they're able to speak five or six different languages, you are in awe and wish you could do it. well imagine being able to speak the one language in life that is the most unexplainable, powerful language and meaning of life, love.... I would also like to mention the fact that if these two people sat down and learn each other's languages together how helpful that is.....and how much easier it is to be able to learn how to communicate with the exact person that you're trying to ........spending time helping each other learn different languages.......TOGETHER. Bus is parked.

Daughter loves it

A great read and study to understand your mate.

Muy recomendable para las parejas que desean aprender formas de comunicarse y comprenderse mejor. No soluciona todos los problemas, pero es de gran ayuda. Sobre todo, es útil para empezar o para continuar con el trabajo de pareja, porque sin un esfuerzo perseverante, inteligente y sensible, es difícil que una relación permanezca.

Ich habe "The 5 Love Languages" von Gary Chapman als Buchempfehlung in einer App entdeckt und kann dieses Buch wirklich nur jedem weiterempfehlen. Gary Chapman stellt in seinem Buch 5 zentrale "Liebessprachen" mit ihren Dialekten anhand von sehr verständlichen Patientenbeispielen und Problemstellungen dar, die wohl jeder aus seinem (Beziehungs-) Leben kennt. Mit Tipps am Ende jedes Kapitels und kleinen Tests am Ende des Buches lässt sich schnell erkennen, welche "Sprache" man selbst überwiegend spricht und welche der eigene Partner. Schon beim Lesen der einzelnen Kapitel erkennt man sich oftmals entweder sofort oder eben gar nicht wieder. Am Ende des Buches hat man so einen tollen Einblick in die Gedankenwelt des Partners - die Kernaussage ist nämlich, dass es darum geht, WIE man sich verhalten oder ausdrücken muss, damit sich DER ANDERE geliebt fühlt - oftmals verhalten wir uns so, wie wir selbst uns geliebt fühlen würden. Das ist nicht zwingend die Art des Partners. Tipp: Das Buch also am Ende mit dem Partner besprechen oder ihm auch zum Lesen geben. Gegenseitig zu wissen, wie man sich tatsächlich verhalten muss, damit der andere sich "geliebt" fühlt, ist spannend. Wer vor der englischsprachigen Version noch etwas zurück schreckt - das Buch ist sehr einfach geschrieben und auch gut verständlich, wenn man nicht jedes Wort kennt.

Me encanta este libro. Fácil lectura, ayuda a comprender más nuestras relaciones. Es una buena herramienta.